Boosting your child’s self-esteem through getting active and positive reinforcement.
Some children are naturally positive, happy, and confident little souls who have no problem in social situations. Many others, however, can be plagued with self-doubt and lack of self-esteem. Fortunately, many parents fortify their youngsters’ self-esteem every day through complimenting them on a job well done, giving him or her a kiss goodbye, and enrolling them in fun activities. Even so, there are some days and moments that slip by where we miss an opportunity to make our children feel good about themselves.
To boost your teen’s self-esteem to become happier and more confidence, here are a few easy ways!
Give Them Credit
While we often tell our children what they did wrong and discipline them for it, we often forget to tell them what they did right. Commend your child on their efforts, and for those times when the results were excellent, so that they can feel proud of themselves. Teens with low self-esteem may be awkward accepting praise, but it means it’s that much more important to follow through on this task!
Reinforce Them Positively
Never criticize your child in a hurtful or demeaning way. Instead of saying, ‘how could you have gotten that answer wrong on your science test?” say, ‘You almost got the answer. With a little extra studying, I’m sure you’ll do better next time.’ This positive reinforcement tells them that it’s okay to make mistakes, and to always give everything their best shot.
Remind Your Child of Accomplishments
Remind your child of the things that they are good at and also how much hard work it was to get there. For example, ‘Remember that when you first started learning to read, you found it very hard. But don’t forget that you worked hard at it and now you’re a great reader.’ Reminding your teen of their accomplishments thus far will help to inspire them to continue through with the ones in which they are struggling.
Encourage Your Teen to Get Involved
Hobbies, activities, and volunteer work is a great way to get out, meet new people, develop new talents, and (surprisingly) boost self-esteem. Kids want to feel valued not only by their families but by the greater community. One way to feel validated is to get them involved with clubs. From leadership programs to volunteer opportunities, Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Conejo Valley has what your child needs to benefit their self-esteem. By working harmoniously together for a greater cause, your teen can establish a true sense of purpose. All of our clubs now have a food drive for Manna Conejo Valley Food Bank, so your teen can help the community directly!
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